The Maze of Divorce
As I sit relaxing on my deck, I ponder over the last fourteen months of my life. I have experienced twists, turns and dead ends
as I faced going through a separation and divorce. The mind boggles as to how I am coming out of it all, sane. The heart however knows full well the lessons learnt and the benefits plus enrichment received, going through the experience of separation and divorce.
A wise person shared with me that what I have been through is like walking through a maze, and that's exactly what it has felt like. At first, when you enter the maze of divorce you are dazed, shocked and confused as to how and exactly why you are walking into it? There may be fleeting moments of feeling free but the waves of emotion can seem so huge that you just
feel numb and the only thing you have the power to focus on is putting one foot in front of the other. The first turn in the maze brings you to a point of asking where to from here? I am in this maze how the heck do I get myself out? I am the one who is going to need to make all decisions around not only my future, but my children's as well! Friends start to take a step back or step forward. Judgement runs rampant internally and externally. Faith I came to realise, is really important. The faith I am speaking of is, faith in one self, and it is this faith that will keep you steady when you reach a dead end in dealing with custody of children, property settlements & who did what to whom. Each turn in the maze revealed new challenges to be faced & sometimes I just had to stay at a dead end longer than necessary so I could come to the awareness that I didn't need to be there.
The dilemma with being in a maze is that you only see what is above and below you.You have no idea what is in front of you or how much you have left behind you. Here you are somewhere between what can feel like heaven and hell. At points
the ratio swung to extremes of both. The one thing I have learned though is the harder you try to avoid taking the next turn the more disorientated you get. All in all, the experience can leave you bitter, better or both. For myself as I sit on my deck surrounded by nature and listening to my children laughing in the background, I feel entirely better for it as freedom from the maze has availed itself to me.
Kathy Wise is a Divorce/Facilitator &
Healer. To book your private consultation
contact Kathy on 0407968300
As I sit relaxing on my deck, I ponder over the last fourteen months of my life. I have experienced twists, turns and dead ends
as I faced going through a separation and divorce. The mind boggles as to how I am coming out of it all, sane. The heart however knows full well the lessons learnt and the benefits plus enrichment received, going through the experience of separation and divorce.
A wise person shared with me that what I have been through is like walking through a maze, and that's exactly what it has felt like. At first, when you enter the maze of divorce you are dazed, shocked and confused as to how and exactly why you are walking into it? There may be fleeting moments of feeling free but the waves of emotion can seem so huge that you just
feel numb and the only thing you have the power to focus on is putting one foot in front of the other. The first turn in the maze brings you to a point of asking where to from here? I am in this maze how the heck do I get myself out? I am the one who is going to need to make all decisions around not only my future, but my children's as well! Friends start to take a step back or step forward. Judgement runs rampant internally and externally. Faith I came to realise, is really important. The faith I am speaking of is, faith in one self, and it is this faith that will keep you steady when you reach a dead end in dealing with custody of children, property settlements & who did what to whom. Each turn in the maze revealed new challenges to be faced & sometimes I just had to stay at a dead end longer than necessary so I could come to the awareness that I didn't need to be there.
The dilemma with being in a maze is that you only see what is above and below you.You have no idea what is in front of you or how much you have left behind you. Here you are somewhere between what can feel like heaven and hell. At points
the ratio swung to extremes of both. The one thing I have learned though is the harder you try to avoid taking the next turn the more disorientated you get. All in all, the experience can leave you bitter, better or both. For myself as I sit on my deck surrounded by nature and listening to my children laughing in the background, I feel entirely better for it as freedom from the maze has availed itself to me.
Kathy Wise is a Divorce/Facilitator &
Healer. To book your private consultation
contact Kathy on 0407968300
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